On the surface, the simple story is that we talk with each another on video calls. Our general sessions are on Sundays and run 1 hour 45 minutes long - about the length of an average feature film. We greet each other and check in, get set with the day's agenda, spend about an hour on our main event, spend a bit of time with “meta” perspective, and check out with our takeaways.
Most weeks, our main activity is metaphorically assembling “around the campfire” to learn and play collectively, to make sense of ourselves and our relationships to others and to the world. Other times, we voyage in multi-week small group “boats” to explore and expand our edges. Our current 4th season runs October through December 2021. Thematically, this looks to be a season in which we will continue:
At the deeper conceptual layer, what we're doing together is authoring a developmental community of practice with a culture of expanded awareness. There's a conventional script for “becoming an adult” that goes something like “finish school, get a job, get married and have 2.5 kids, buy a house and then acquire more toys while climbing the corporate ladder.” This also seems like a recipe for having a mid-life crisis of meaning. The conventional script sells us short: we can, and do, keep developing throughout our whole lives.
How does one practice development, or build a culture around it? We think a large part of the answer comes from relational practices. A recent renaissance in group practices illustrates how powerful the adoption of different norms and “rules” of interaction can be. From the T-groups of the 1950s, to 21st century Circling, to the growth of Authentic Relating and Social Meditation in the last decade, this movement has been growing rapidly. People around the world are discovering that it's actually fairly easy to bypass the usual “how's the weather” social scripts of general society with a bit of intentionality and shared agreements that create a space for deeper, more meaningful connection.
To go even deeper into the theoretical model, developmental constructivism is a fancy way to say that we make meaning, inside ourselves, from our experiences. The field of adult development has shown that we can - and do - keep developing throughout our whole lives. The stage models of Robert Kegan, Bill Torbert, and Susanne Cook-Greuter provide a coherent perspective on typical (Western-shaded) developmental proressions. Off to the collective side of this domain is Spiral Dynamics, in a lineage from Graves to Beck and Cowan to Wilber, which helps us to see and make sense of the values of various political groups and social tribes in this polarized age.
In the spirit of “chop wood, carry water,” the deepest summary of what we do is perhaps “we practice being, together” - which does correspond with “talk with one another on video calls” and is also something quite profound. Being and doing are a polarity which, at least in the West, has been culturally tilted towards doing since the dominance of modernity. Intentional Society focuses on the inner work of being, currently - and we keep a watchful eye on what kinds of doing may be calling to us.
A lot of theory and thought has gone into what we do together. But it’s also what people everywhere have known and done for millenia, in villages, tribes, and crews of belonging and support. There is wisdom in both science and woo, in the latest discoveries and in ancient traditions. We thrive as social, relational beings, growing in small groups of high trust - and even as we’re faced with global challenges that demand coordination across humanity to meet, we think that any future of global unity must emerge fractally outward from interpersonal trust and cooperation at local scale.